a realisation

I have been reading the blogs of other families who have lost babies and came across a comment saying "it doesnt get better does it?"

I thought about it for a moment and realised that it does get better but it will never be the same... Matilda will always be missing from our lives, but having had her with us for 5 short months has changed my life forever..

My current dilemma... what do you say when people say how many kids do you have? or do you have any kids? Clearly this is a question that only gets asked when you first meet a person.. so do you say none to make them feel better or do you tell them the truth and not ignore the fact that you do have a child? I dunno...